Being a single parent is never easy. What with the holidays hanging overhead, it will only get more difficult.
Single parenting during the holidays has some bonuses – extra memories, extra hugs, and more cookies. You get to focus on just the kids. You can sit and take extra time to unwrap gifts or eat pancakes.
Only one adult means less pictures and unless you selfie, it means zero pictures of you with the kids. It takes extra hands to run a camera, and when you have a young one like C, you don’t get the luxury of having your own hands free.
Shared holidays – remember ordering Chinese food on Christmas eve? Well order a combo for one, because the kids are gone with their father. Remember opening up one gift before bed? Well don’t even bother thinking up a special Christmas eve gift because they will be too wiped to spend time enjoying it before being carried to bed because they passed out in the car on their way home.
Making plans based on when you have the kids is difficult too. Every Saturday leading up to Christmas is full of fun activities around the city, but, the kids will always be with their father on the really good ones. Just face the fact now.
Christmas is more expensive. You want to make sure they have lots under the tree but now, you’re the only one paying for those gifts. There isn’t a second parent helping with half the cost. Being Santa is expensive, let’s face it.
Then there is the dreaded holiday loneliness. When the kids are gone, or in bed, you are alone. All by yourself. You miss snuggling up with hot chocolate – and by that I mean wine. Now, it’s just you and your bottle. Don’t worry, wine has your back. Wine will let you cry and will love you. But it’s not enough.
Being single on the holidays can be tough. Everyone wants to love and be loved in return. Especially during the holidays.
Don’t worry, it won’t be like this forever.
For now, try and focus on the great! The time you do have with your kids – make it extra special. Do all the fun things. One day, someone special will walk into your life and you will never feel lonely during the holidays again.